DECISIONS

RAMÓN ANTONIO LARRAÑAGA TORRÓNTEGUI

Diploma and Master's Degree in Human Development FESC- National Autonomous University of Mexico.

An unforgettable love, yes, it seems that we have all had such a love, that one that will always live in our heart, that no matter how much time and years pass, it is there, somewhere in the heart. Maybe that person never got to know, maybe he was not free, maybe you had no experiences or you just did not value love ... but it slipped through your fingers and left your life leaving you heartbroken. But your memory always comes to your mind and heart. It is unacceptable, you would prefer that you did not feel like that because your life now is worth it, but the secret is still there ... and always will be. How nice it is to see an elderly couple holding hands together! They are always looked at and admired because despite the many years they can be seen together and walking through life. They are eternal marriages, those that are difficult to find nowadays.

Today we are always giving priority to banal things, we are not concerned about what really matters: good coexistence. We tend not to give the importance that coexistence with the couple, children, family or even friends deserves.

We pass a lot of details that although they may seem trivial, they really are very important to live happily. Today, when we commit ourselves to institute a life with a person, we are so demanding that at the minimum they make us, we want to separate. The economy is the main reason for couple conflicts.

Lack of money, or feeling isolated in economic decisions are usually the main cause of problems. We must therefore learn to sit down and discuss things in order to save our relationships. As my grandmother used to say, in order to have a good relationship you have to avoid 3 things in life in pairs. Abuse in any of its forms, both verbal and physical.

Abuse destroys and feeds the hatred that is always at the door of our hearts. Alcohol, vices and addictions, that breaks with every relationship, since you can not establish dialogue, there is no such thing as. You can not reason with an alcoholic.

Infidelity. This is the most important, when your partner or you commit an infidelity, they cease to have confidence, and that breaks any bond of love. In short, the happiness of living a good love, a good relationship, can be achieved if people contribute to be more flexible, that will prevent the bonds of love that one day united do not break so easily.

We must be more elastic, however much in our relationships we move away from each other, we can always go back to the starting point. Avoid everyday discussions, those that are repeated every day such as who will clean today, what will be done with children, the dog, etc. Do not waste energy in that kind of discussions, think of the love that still exists, however dim it may be, in us there is the power to fan the fires. Everything can be resolved if those three points above are respected and avoided. There is no magic formula, each person lives his life as he wants and chooses. You must be happy, choose the option of being happy, that is the best option, the rest comes in addition.

Do not think that the love of a woman is the solution to our loneliness, it is not like that, we can be happy with the little things like reading, writing, drinking coffee with a friend, simple things in life. We do not need anyone's leftovers. -If we are going to love that they love us with all our things, with the good and the bad, a sincere love, an authentic friendship, that is what is necessary in life. Looking for love and love can lead us to make many mistakes.

It is good to remember that in order to climb many times we fall, we must not become demoralized because we must be strong and life is full of obstacles, it is more the bitter than the sweet. Do not get depressed if you see that you fall again many times, it's a law of life: falling and getting up. But this time, get up with a lot of dignity and do not allow yourself to receive "crumbs of affection". All or nothing, that's what love should be like. To love you only need two people, couples of three can never be happy because they will hurt no matter how much they think that leading a double life is easy - it is not - and why you will not deserve someone to love you only ?

You deserve it, and if there is someone who is reading this and is living this type of lack of love, beware! we have to know how to stop them, and we have to love ourselves more than other people. "In life we ​​all have an unmentionable secret, an irreversible repentance, an unattainable dream and an unforgettable love." Every human being keeps some secret inside his heart and keeps it in a hermetic way. They are secrets of those that never reveal themselves, that we never count or tell ... secrets that will accompany us to the grave. I think most of us have secrets and are not always necessarily bad, but they are secrets that we simply do not think are worth knowing.

We keep our feelings, what we feel, what we think and the way we act before something that we live. Many times we would like to erase some memories from our memory. We would like to undo the past and all that we keep secret today, what we did one day, we were forged, or what we learned one day. But the past can not be changed, and we would not be who we are without those events. All our history is part of us, even (and sometimes especially) the history that surrounds our secret. An unspeakable secret is that which is not even said to the priest of your people, something that although it weighs in your heart, you can not reveal it. Maybe an impossible love, an infidelity, a story that should never have been, there is no one in the world who sooner or later has no secret to keep.

There is a moment in your life when you are about to speak and tell it, but you keep quiet ... and once you are silent there is no turning back, and it will remain as what is "an unmentionable secret" Secret for a late repentance: Many times more than you would like, sometimes out of pride, lack of love, lack of humility or whatever it is we did not say "I'm sorry" or "forgive me" when we had the chance.

We are left with the fault, with the bad that we did. You feel that it is so much damage that you have done that you are not able to get up and confess that what you did was wrong. And so another bitter feeling is left in our lives, as unspeakable secrets ... Many times we dream of an impossible: to leave our lives and start over again. Maybe something has gone wrong for us, we do not feel good, we do not have freedom ... and a million other reasons for us to want to leave behind our current life. There are people who have succeeded, who one day left everything behind, who escaped from their surroundings, left their places of origin and began life again forgetting everything.

The past remains in his memory and in his heart, but they abandoned everything and want him to remain there, abandoned, without peeking again. All people have been blessed with many blessings, you just have to recognize them and cultivate them in order not to live nourishing gaps, traumas, bitterness and disappointments. Do not let a cloud cover the wonderful light of day, simply accept that there are things that have no solution and things that you can not change or have.

For your own good, leave those things aside and enjoy how much or how little you have. It will be better, it's worth living happily like that. Think that there are other alternatives for our lives, things that always come well, let's focus more on the things we have and be more grateful. Let's avoid spending the day thinking about the shortcomings there are. In this world there are people who would give everything to have a small part of what we have, meanwhile we anguish wishing what they have the rest.

Leave those bad thoughts and start to be happy with everything you possess, value and enjoy what today exists in our lives. Live life with joy, because despite the frustrations we will always have the hope that one day we can achieve what we long for, things have solutions, we must be patient. And if we see that despite all efforts we make there are things that we do not achieve and for which we can not do anything, it is not worth living anguished and bitter for it. Better leave those dreams or pretensions and enjoy what is within our reach. We can be happy despite not having everything. Life must be lived with much hope, love and patience, in this way we can achieve much more than you imagine.

We all go through life looking for happiness, but many times out of fear we stay stuck in life with a relationship that brings us nothing good. We insist so much on being accompanied that we do not see that many times they only give us crumbs of love, affection or friendship. Why can not I have a love or someone to listen to me? But no, let's not get so melancholy thinking this way negatively ... because with that attitude we will only find anything when in reality we deserve everything, and not little by little but hands full.

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